When we stop merely running our relational routines on others, we enter the riveting, productive world of relational presence.  Relaxing and letting go of the subconscious agendas for others and ourselves we so often cling to during interpersonal contact makes room for experiential impact, emotional perceptivity, and expanded-brain mindfulness when relating to others.  What a rush we experience when we connect with another without the personality’s project running the show! 

How do we notice and begin to let go of our personality’s routine when relating to significant others, to colleagues, even to ourselves?  We practice taking a breath of presence whenever we remember to do so, where we get still enough inside to notice what Riso and Hudson call the Wake-Up Call.  The Wake-up Call for our Enneatype always invites us to relax the subconscious agendas we are running in that moment. 

When you start to become familiar with the physical tensions, affective blocks, and intellectual loops associated with your personality’s favorite agendas, you can then relax those body patterns, find your way into motivationally helpful feelings, and entertain fresh thoughts that serve your relationships. 

Wake-Up Calls in your life that might need some attention (from the Riso-Hudson Authorized Workshop, the Wisdom of the Enneagram):

1. The Reformer:          Feeling a sense of personal obligation to fix everything ourselves   (“If I don’t do this, no one else will.”)
2. The Helper:               Leaning in and people-pleasing    (”I must go out to others to win them over”)
3. The Achiever:           Believing one’s value depends on one’s success  (Beginning to drive myself for status and attention)
4. The Individualist:    Using the imagination to intensify feelings    (Clinging to a mood - replay mode)
5. The Investigator:     Retreating into the mind   (I withdraw from reality into concepts and mental worlds)
6. The Loyalist:             Second guessing and a doubting mind  (Turning away from confidence in self - I’m becoming dependent on something outside myself for guidance)
7. The Enthusiast:        ”The grass is greener…”   (Feeling something better is available somewhere else)
8. The Challenger:        Using too much energy   (Feeling that I must push and struggle to make things happen)
9. The Peacemaker:     Going along with others   (Outwardly accommodating myself to others.  Saying “yes” when I mean “no!”)

More on this topic:

Want to learn more about applying the Enneagram of Personality Wake Up Calls to your daily life?  Join us for: 

 The Wisdom of the Enneagram: Moving Beyond Personality - the Joyful Experience of an Awakening Life    (a November 2007 Northern California workshop with Dr. Ronna Phifer-Ritchie and Dr. Roxanne Howe-Murphy)

For more on the Enneagram of Personality and healthy relationships, consider taking:

 The Relationships Workshop - Intimate and Professional   (a September 2007 Northern California workshop with Dr. Ronna Phifer-Ritchie and Dr. Roxanne Howe-Murphy)

Beyond the study of personality types, the Enneagram is a powerful tool for supporting the work of awakening to our Essential Nature. Refresh and invigorate your soul during this insight-filled weekend workshop held in a peaceful, fully green solar-powered conference center tucked away in the California Santa Cruz Mountains. This 2-day introduction to the psycho-spiritual approach to the Enneagram will enable you to “remember” your true self, and become increasingly present to the spiritual reality in your daily life. At the end of this weekend, you will begin to more rapidly recognize and respond to the “wake up calls” in your life and experience higher levels of heath and wholeness. This workshop provides immediate access to basic Enneagram knowledge and practices that will enhance your psychological and spiritual growth process, and offer specific insights about your personality style that will inspire you to show up in high quality ways more often in daily life.

You can expect to:

• Discover each type’s gifts, healing attitudes and specific transformation process
• Learn how to observe and let go of our more troublesome habits and reactions
• Hear ways to work with the specific motivations of each type
• Cultivate more awareness in your everyday life
• Understand how to use the Enneagram for your continued spiritual growth

Dates:              Saturday November 9-11, 2007

Location:       Presentation Retreat Center, Los Gatos, CA

Cost:                 $285 (includes lunch on Saturday and Sunday)   
                            Special Offer! Bring a friend, and the 2nd person receives a 30% discount.

Register:         Enneagrowth.com/events   or call Ronna at 408/398-7111


Facilitators:

Dr. Ronna Phifer-Ritchie, Principal of Enneagrowth, is a consultant, public speaker, and author. She holds a doctorate in counseling psychology and a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy. Ronna is an ICF certified Life Coach and her passion is helping individuals broaden and optimize personality style as a developmental pathway to true spiritual progress.

Dr. Roxanne Howe-Murphy, teacher, coach, and author, is Principal of LifeWise Learning Institute, an executive and life coaching company. She also is the Director of the Enneagram Institute of the San Francisco Bay Area. Roxanne is the author of the recently published book, Deep Coaching: Using the Enneagram as a Catalyst for Profound Change.

Both Roxanne and Ronna are certified Riso-Hudson teachers and have been authorized as the first generation of teachers to offer workshops previously taught only by Don Riso or Russ Hudson.

Notes

CEU’s: This course meets the requirements for 12 hours of Continuing Education Credit for MFT’s and LCSW’s as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. Provider Name: Roxanne Howe-Murphy, Ed.D. Provider number: PCE2759

Cancellation Policy: In the event that you need to cancel, a full refund minus $35.00 will be given through July 15. From July 16 through Aug. 17, there is a 35 % cancellation fee.

Lodging: Participants who wish to stay overnight during the workshop may make arrangements directly with Presentation Center.

A life without relationships… it’s impossible. Relationships are core to our existence, and have an enormous impact on our identity, health, self-worth, success in the world, and even our survival. They can be rewarding and intriguing, as well as baffling and sometimes painful. How we interact with others provides a key to our psychological and spiritual development.

The Enneagram offers a profound and immensely practical way to understand and shift your relationships with others. In this workshop, we will address how core thinking and emotional dynamics operate between different Enneagram types, explore effective methods you can use to communicate with people of each type, and learn how the three Instinctual Variants (Subtypes) affect primary motivations in your relationships. You will gain new perspectives on yourself and others, and gain valuable insights to having healthier relationships.

Facilitators:

Dr. Ronna Phifer-Ritchie, Principal of Enneagrowth, is a consultant, public speaker, and author. She holds a doctorate in counseling psychology and a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy. Ronna is an ICF certified Life Coach and her passion is helping individuals broaden and optimize personality style as a developmental pathway to true spiritual progress.

Dr. Roxanne Howe-Murphy, teacher, coach, and author, is Principal of LifeWise Learning Institute, an executive and life coaching company. She also is the Director of the Enneagram Institute of the San Francisco Bay Area. Roxanne is the author of the recently published book, Deep Coaching: Using the Enneagram as a Catalyst for Profound Change.

Both Roxanne and Ronna are certified Riso-Hudson teachers and have been authorized as the first generation of teachers to offer workshops previously taught only by Don Riso or Russ Hudson.

CEU’s: This course meets the requirements for 15 hours of Continuing Education Credit for MFT’s and LCSW’s as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. Provider Name: Roxanne Howe-Murphy, Ed.D. Provider number: PCE2759

Date:               Sept 21-23, 2007

                          Friday, 7-10pm Saturday, 9-6pm and Sunday, 9-5pm

Location:      Mercy Center, Burlingame, CA

Cost:               $260.00

Register:        Contact Roxanne:   650-726-3353
                          or Click here to Register  -  Visa and MasterCard accepted

Note: Those wishing to stay onsite at Mercy Center during the workshop can contact Mercy directly at 650-340-7454.  Please note that lunch is on your own.